Mothers as role models – well there’s not much of a choice. Whether you wish to be or not you are the first person that your daughter imprints upon. I’m sure many of us, as we grow up from child to young adult to fully grown adult and then perhaps parents, we start to reflect on our lives as children and formulate our own do’s and don’ts list. We do this in a genuine effort to be the best parents we can be and to raise a more advanced human than that of ourselves.
Having a daughter is the most divine and precious gift of my existence. Daughters can be a lot like bonsai trees. They are serene, beautiful, and fragile. If you don’t take the time to nurture the beneficial leaves, prune out the poisoned ones, teach, demonstrate and listen they can quickly become lost. The statement “it’s a man’s world” is absolutely true. You have to help your daughter find her strength, her voice, her place in a world that isn’t necessarily designed to value her individuality. Women seem to be viewed as part of a unit and are more oft than not celebrated for their contributions to a “team” effort. Men create a much more solitary visual and are more often celebrated for their individual achievements.
My most important job when it came to raising my daughter was to help her discover herself. I knew that once she was secure in her own identity her future would be limitless and happiness obtainable. When she was a young lady she asked me if she could go to her first party. My answer was no. Her entire aura deflated as she accepted my answer. What I told her after that surprised us both. I told her that in this life she’s going to have to learn to fight for what she wants and she should start with me. Her brows knitted together, a serious expression washed over her face before she decided she would open up to me and give me all of the reasons why she wanted to go to the party and then went even further as to suggest how I would be able to speak to the parents of the party, drop her off and pick her up so that we would both be satisfied. She won her first argument! Now that she’s 24 it’s habitual for her to weigh all of her options, consider all of the angles and then make a choice based upon what she defines as best suited for herself. What more could I want?